Why every couple should use sex toys together

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It goes almost without saying that sex toys can turn a person’s solo sex life inside-out in the most beautiful ways. They can teach a person a thing or three about how their body truly likes to be stimulated. Plus, having a constantly accessible way to experience as many world-class orgasms as you can handle is great for your self-esteem and overall sense of wellbeing.

Still, you can’t honestly say you’ve experienced everything the world of sex toys has to offer until you’ve used a toy with your partner. That’s right. Toys aren’t just for enjoying on your own. They make incredible additions to partnered sex, as well, and can improve your relationships in some pretty significant ways. Here are some prime examples.

1.      They take the guesswork out of having an orgasm.

Now, giving your partner an orgasm the traditional way and having them do the same for you is definitely something to enjoy. But sometimes, orgasms can feel like stress, especially if you’re tired or can’t get into a mental state for any reason. It’s easy to focus on having or giving an orgasm when you’re out of it at the moment.
Toys help with orgasm development, which means there is little separation between you and a world-changing, satisfying orgasm. As a result, you can stop worrying about whether you’re going to reach your goal and focus on connection. Your horizons are open to how and when you’ll reach your big finish, so don’t be afraid to explore the possibilities.

2.      They get you talking about sex.

More couples than you might think have trouble talking openly and honestly about sex, so if you and your partner struggle at times, you’re not alone. Yes, people and society are becoming more open and comfortable with sex and related topics, but there is still a long way to go. Many people are still overcoming conservative parenting styles and should not discuss old-fashioned teachings that prescribe sex.
Of course, it depends on how open each person is about their sexuality. But no matter what, you and your partner must be able to discuss sex freely. Sex toys are the ideal way to open up a conversation and get you both talking, so make the most of it. Discuss what you each like about the toy-centred experiences you try. Practice giving each other bedroom feedback and asking each other what you want.

3.      They inspire you to think outside the box.

Let’s face it. Sexual habits are a fact of life, even for couples who are deeply in love with and attracted to each other. This is especially true once you’ve been together for a while. Life gets busy and you both end up with more and more things to do. Work challenges and family responsibilities demand your utmost attention.
Then, when you have the time and energy to have sex at the end of the day, you stick to what you already know how to do. Your sex life becomes increasingly unnatural and you stop thinking outside the box. Before you know it, you’ve fallen into a sexual rut, wondering when you and your partner have lost your passion for depravity and filth.
Sex toys are a great way to get your creativity back. Not only will they bring a wonderful new feel to your repertoire, but they will make your expansion in the bedroom feel like second nature again. You might even consider starting an entire collection that keeps getting added to over time. Overall, there are always exciting things to achieve when you want to change things up and stay inspired.

4.      They take the sex you already love to the next level.

Many couples who have never used toys together worry that bringing outdoor tools into the bedroom will take away from the sex they already have, or otherwise distort it. So, if you’re worried about this, don’t be. Toys are not a substitute for your partner. And the desire to use them or explore them further shouldn’t be seen as enough for one’s partner.
Toys are tools to enhance your sex life and make it richer, more fulfilling and more satisfying than ever before. You can’t have sex with a toy. You are making love, just as you always have. Toys simply enhance and amplify what is already happening, just like lube, lingerie or music.
Contrary to what some people may think, toys are not just for the eccentric or habitually adventurous. Any couple can add one or more from their sex life, so don’t be afraid to try one for yourself. You’ll certainly be glad you did.